Wednesday, November 29, 2006

I don't think I know you well enough

While working on a project at school today, I was assisted by another volunteer mom. I've seen this woman around the school on occasion and have been in her company one other time, briefly. She is really quite nice and I had no problem at all working with her. We made small talk and had easy casual conversation about our kids, the holiday, school, etc. until.....

I made the horrible mistake of asking what her husband did. She tells me but doesn't stop there. She goes on to add...

Her: "Ya know, he drinks too much and really has a smart mouth!"

Me: "Oh."

Her: "Yeah, I even had him arrested but they let him go and he walked home."

Me: "Hmm!"

Her: "He's on the computer forever......And, I've found a ton of porn sites that he's visited. I've even left him once,"

Me: "Wow! Huh?"

Her: "Yeah, and we haven't had sex in thirteen and a half months!"

Me: "What?! Now that's not good!"

Ok, first if you know me at all, I'm never at a loss for words. Actually, I was thinking...."Look lady, you're married to a freak, who has some serious issues. And, it may be very true that you haven't had sex for thirteen and a half months, but you better believe your husband hasn't gone that long. That boy has been steppin' out!!" (I wouldn't go thirteen and a half days......MONTHS would be grounds for divorce!)

But, because I've known this woman for all of 90 minutes, I kept my end of the conversation at a level of a Non-English speaking person.

Now, I'm all in favor of sharing. I myself have a couple of girlfriends that I share extremely personally information with. But, I have a relationship with these women, a level of trust and we share a mutual respect. Perhaps if this over sharing stranger was actually reaching out and needed someone to vent to it would have been different. As it was, it was like she was telling my about a great pair of jeans she just bought on sale at Banana Republic, along with a cute little top. That, I would have much rather heard.


Blogger Aisha said...

LOL!!!! I've had that happen a fwe times. I don tknow what to do with myself when it happens.

"I kept my end of the conversation at a level of a Non-English speaking person." <-- ROFL. LOVE IT :)

I wonder if most ppl who know these types of people know what would happen the response so they dont as;k. Perhaps you were the first in a while. Imagine what she shares to her GOOD friends???

6:57 AM  
Anonymous sarahgrace said...

I never know what to do when people divulge that much information, like right after they meet you. I usually end up feeling bad for them because I assume that either they really need some attention, or they just don't have anyone to talk to (I guess those are about the same, aren't they?)

12:08 PM  
Anonymous lammyann said...

Egads --that happend to me recently.. I am relatively religious, although in no way a prude, and the woman I ran into spoke in great detail about her "rambunctious sexlife" and how it's acceptable (in our religion)to be a slut in the bedroom and the goody goody in the kitchen... (as if I needed her permission )... and she continued on with the conversation for an hour...
I merely did the same: Nodded and made the "non-english speaking" small talk. (great name for it).
Seriously Icky

9:22 PM  
Blogger Renee said...

That's too funny. Some people just feel the urge to share freely . . way too freely.
I'm with you on the sex thing. Maybe Thumbelina and her four sisters have been hard at work with her husband!

7:05 AM  
Blogger Becky..Absent Minded Housewife said...

I don't know if I'd sleep with anyone who divulged that kind of info about me to complete strangers either...

7:34 AM  
Blogger cubmommy said...

Yeah that would be TMI for a person you hardly know face to face. Now talking on a blog is totally acceptable! LOL!

3:13 PM  
Blogger Marel Lecone said...

Wow--that is a little much!

9:33 PM  
Blogger The Daily Rant said...

Thirteen and a half DAYS? Please. I'm surprised you can go thirteen and a half MINUTES without sex.

And I can't believe you know about Banana Republic. Have you been studying the mall brochure? Or have you been shopping without my knowledge??

8:20 AM  

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