Friday, January 27, 2006

Because I have to know!

What is reasonable? The norm or a fair average? What would YOU consider a reasonable number per week to engage in adult play time? (no clothes required) I'm not necessarily asking what you do personally, just what you think. I know, I know, it depends a lot on age, family life, (number of kids and ages) work, living arrangements, etc. Still, taking these many factors into consideration, what is fair?

I ask, because I've been told by several close friends, that I need HELP! That's right, help. That I should seriously consider looking into some sort of therapy, lol. Because in this house, it's more than 3 but less than 7 times a week. I mean these women have actually gasped. I don't know why, they are the ones that asked. Is it completely abnormal? Is there reason for these people to be standing there with their mouths gaping open?

Well, this just may confirm what has been suspected all along......I'm NOT normal!

I do however, have friend that shares my view on this subject. You know who you are, and if it's discovered that I need're coming with me Missy!

“Sex is more than an act of pleasure, its the ability to be able to feel so close to a person, so connected, so comfortable that its almost breathtaking to the point you feel you can’t take it. And its at this moment your a part of them."



Blogger mommyof4 said...

I guess I will be coming to therapy with you because I am worse off FAR worse off!!!

7:58 PM  
Blogger Christie said...


8:18 PM  
Blogger Aisha said...

wait. I'm confused. are they gasping b/c its too much? or gasping b/c its too little? *oh please answer quickly I'm so curious!!!*

In my opinion 2-3 times a week is just right.

here's a site with some stats on it:

8:20 PM  
Blogger Aisha said...

Incase the link doesnt work here's the relevant part of the study: 12% reported only a few time in the past year, 47% reported a few times in the past month, 32% reported 2-3 times a week, and 7% reported 4 or more times a week. So the normal is a few times a month and number two is 2-3 times a week. So I'm right:)

8:21 PM  
Blogger momyblogR said...


They think it's too MUCH. Go figure, lol! Thanks so much for the info. So, I'm NOT sick?

8:27 PM  
Blogger Aisha said...

Too much?? They said you need therapy because it's too much? Ok. hm. "someone" sounds jealous. The more the merrier. And not just in a cliche way. My biggest fear is that once kids come into the picture we'll never have time anymore. You are my role model that time can be made :). If its abnormal to have sex more than 3 and less than 7... then I dont want to be normal!

8:37 PM  
Blogger Norman said...


My poor guy is LUCKY if he gets it more than 3 but less than 7 times a YEAR!


no really - we are "limited" in play time as our youngest is still rooming with us. When she starts sleeping consistently thru the night, she moves in with her big sister!!


8:39 PM  
Blogger momyblogR said...


Nah, don't worry about the kids, there is ALWAYS time. It causes you to become very creative and a little like playing Russian Roulette. There is always the chance of getting caught. Just a little added excitement. LOL!

I don't ever want to be normal!

8:46 PM  
Blogger Kim said...

Unfortunately, I think we are in the category of twice in that last 3 1/2 months.......I tried last night, but he was busy playing games on his palm pilot. He made some comment about me blogging so much after that and I said at least they pay attention to me! :-)

8:47 PM  
Blogger cubmommy said...

I applaud you! My Hubby is lucky to get it 3 times a year. LOL!

I hope it will get better once Little Cubby sleeps through the night. He still wakes up a couple of times. I am exhausted.

5:24 AM  
Blogger Suz said...

If it was up to my hubby we would have it everyday. I like it about 3 times a week but that isnt always possible because he is away alot. So we take it when we can get it, lol

I think its great you & your hubby have a close realtionship like that.

Love the quote!

Hugs Suz

7:52 AM  
Blogger Christie said...

We were very "active" through the first 20 years and now, I'm not sure what happened! So 3 or 4 times a week not a big deal. Go for 3 or 4 days a week, 2 to 3 times a day(before work, after work, before sleep)and then you're looking at therapy!

8:25 AM  
Blogger Spikey1 said...

Im in jail! LOL

9:06 AM  
Blogger Bossy♥'s YOU said...

well this is intersting, I always wondered if I was normal..

ours use to be about 4 times a month, cuz I was too dang tired and didnt care..

now its just about every nihgt, minus the few days that my little monthly visitor is here;)

10:56 AM  
Blogger Renee said...

Uh-oh. GASP!

11:22 AM  
Blogger Marel Lecone said...

Wow--that is so great. Now, how many times do I have to say that you are my idol?!?!

Well, let me go so I can get it on!! heehee :)

Have a great weekend!

1:03 PM  
Blogger Tammy said...


Where do you find the time and engergy, girlfriend?!?

1:24 PM  
Blogger Little Miss said...

nope, i'm a self-proclaimed sex camel. (goes months without drinking, then suddenly goes crazy and drinks an entire well?)

yep, that would be me. So I guess it all depends on WHEN you ask.

; )

1:24 PM  
Blogger Little Miss said...

my w.v. was


just seems to go well w/ this post if you say it loud enough and in a sensual tone of voice...

ha! my new w.v. is


1:26 PM  
Blogger Laney said...

Oh dear God in heaven! I am sooo hoping that my mother doesn't read your blog today and see my comment!!

I admit to 3-4 times per week. Sometimes, I'm just not into it so I pull out the lingerie and that helps! Also, the Brazilian wax helps! Did I just say that out loud? :-)

p.s. I have the Brazilian, not him! LOL

3:27 PM  
Blogger TL said...

I am so far below "normal" then. If it was up to the other half of this relationship about 4-6 times a day would be his target number. But right now we run about 1 every 2-3 weeks, it does not help that I live with the human scoreboard so to get the exact facts and statistical breakdown you will have to ask him.

He would love for this half of the relationship to have the numbers some of you have here!

6:09 PM  
Blogger candyfortheteacher said...

My hubbt and i have been married 21 years. We always did it about 2-3 times a week some more some less. Now we are 2-3 times a month. I think we would still be at 2-3 times a week if had not had a bad back injury 8 years ago. Enjoy your sexuality and tell them na na na.. eat your heart out!!!

6:45 PM  
Blogger momma of 2 said...

I think whatever makes you and your hubby happy is what is right for you. Those ladies are either jealous because 1) they don't know how you have the energy, 2) they don't know how to make their hubby's want them that often.

Granted my Hubby would love more - he also understands that I have been exhausted lately.

7:39 PM  
Blogger sarahgrace said...

I think that is awesome that you engage in "adult playtime" that much and definitely NOT a bad thing in the least.
I have often heard that its not the number of times, or even the "quality" of "it", its that you and DH agree on number of times and quality. Some people do it more and some less, that's just the way it is.

And Laney: Does the Brazilian wax really hurt to get done? I've never known anyone that has had one done that I could ask...

9:15 PM  
Blogger LeighAnn said...

Well, it it all with the same person?? :-)

9:47 PM  
Blogger Lala's world said...

my husband and I fight about this all the time!! he would have it 3 times a day if he could, I tell him having it 3-4 times a week is pretty good all things considered, 4 children ages 3-11!! ya come on!! he gets frustrated very easily.
When I tell him the average is 2x a week and that we do it more than any of my friends,he says I have boring friends....... eeeeegad

so good for you!

10:22 AM  
Blogger Aisha said...

as i read through all the responses I realize i took for granted that the hub an I have compatible sex drives... neither of us in want of more or less. Thank God. It must be frustrating if someone wants it more and the other wants it less b/c the one who wnats it more has to feel the frustration of rejection... and that has to be hard although the person rejecting isnt doing it in a mean way... its just not there. Interesting! I've learned a lot. :)

11:04 AM  
Blogger Daisy Mae said...

Holy Cow!!! I'd be glad for once a week. But t have it 3 to 7 times a week? You are one lucky person! Could you email my hubby and tell him to get with the program?

11:15 AM  
Blogger momyblogR said...

Little Miss..

No WAY with that WV...too FUNNY!


My goodness YES with the same man. If not, I'm afraid I'd run out of men and have to move, lol!!


Yes, I too have learned a lot. Mostly, that I'm very lucky as well.

Daisy Mae..

Once a week just doesn't cut it in this house, for either of us. I'd love to email the Hubbs and tell him to get with it. I'm just afraid he won't know who I am, LOL!! Thanks for visiting.

1:26 PM  
Blogger bon said...

We are down to tight rations in this house, averaging about 3 times a week... mind you the new baby is not yet three months old and sleep is at a premium. it NEVER occurred to me this would be considered alot!

3:13 PM  
Blogger Nobody said...

Geez, twice a week would be nice. I would say 3-5 times a week would be ideal.

6:16 PM  

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